Women need to really focus on being themselves & loving themselves….

So my sister shared this video on Facebook and I thought it was rather touching. Definitely something worth sharing. Even more so worth sharing with my sister’s words to go with it. She doesn’t have a blog but she posts a lot of spiritual, motivational and thought provoking information on her personal page.  My Sister’s Page  <<< Go check her out!! (She said it was okay for me to share her post on my blog.) Hope you enjoy it!


Ahhhh! Good Morning Beautiful People! YES, YOU!! YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!!!

This video is a wonderful expression of not only self acceptance, but also self Love. Dig the way he embraced her natural beauty!! It could have only been better if she were his Wife.

I have a saying, ” I didn’t “go” natural, I returned to WHAT was natural.” Natural hair is nothing to be ashamed of and it shouldn’t be a fad for us. Because of forced biased images of “beauty” through history, we have not been as accepting of our own natural beauty…skintone, eyes, facial shape, body structure and hair.

What’s funny is that other ethnicities are hurting and humiliating themselves trying to copy US!!! Mind blowing!! When we never see anyone like us associated with something phenomenal, important or beautiful, we tend to develop the mindset that we don’t belong in those catagories. We start to believe the deception, and alter who we are to feel beautiful and fit in. We have done it for so long my Sisters don’t know how to take care of their natural hair!! Sadly, because of these desires to fit in, be liked/loved/accepted, frustration and confusion, they turn back! Let me clear this up too, I am in NO WAY justifying not taking care of yourself, health and environment. So serious, that is a must people!!

The decision came about, due to enlightenment about “why we do, what we do”. I have wrestled with it several times… in 2003, 2005, 2009 and now. I struggled with not “looking good”, my Spouse accepting it or fitting in…I mean, I am a Cosmetologist!! I was used to keeping my hair and others Fly!! I had an image to uphold!! On the other hand, what was I saying to the denial, shame, unfamiliarity and disatisfaction of the Most Highs design?

Well, this time it’s for good. I love me in all my naturally given AWESOMENESS.
I may not be your idea of beautiful, and your opinion doesn’t bother me if you have a different one. I still love you. I learned in my youth that everyone has an opinion…and it’s just that, an opinion. I don’t take them personal (Powers, principalities and Spiritual wickedness). When you line their thoughts and words up with what the Lord Most High has said, what they say weighs very little on the scale of relevance. The whole satanic family and it’s power, tactics and words can not destroy whats inside, unless you let them in. And if you have…there is a Name that is above ALL names, ok? NOTHING ELSE MATTERS. To those who matter; the Most High, My Husband, My Children and me…I am beautiful, important, wise , intelligent, set apart, Royal, Precious, Rare, joyful, healing, compassionate, helpful, friendly, strong, patient, forgiving, giving, sincere, imperfect, but perfect!!! And that is all that is important to me. Men, Husbands, Brothers…I beseech you, embrace the natural Woman.

The contacts, the weave, the braids, the chemicals, the lashes…and even some make up…they allow us to hide behind unhappiness, discontentment, fear,failures, scars and most of all they create a false image to who we attract. We can never experience real acceptance, joy, happiness and love if we don’t first learn to truly love and embrace ourselves.

Yes, i did it. It was fun, but Family, fun, if we are not careful, can turn into bondage, idolatry and a mental prison. It has it’s place in this industry I make my living in however, I have learned moderation is key. Don’t lose who you are for fame, fashion or fortune. I appreciate my clients and will continue to serve their needs and desires, to the best of my ability. I will always educate them about whatever is better… For them, their families, for the enviornment, for the world. Spirits travels from person to person, generation to generation but we have the power within to break yokes, strongholds and curses!!!!

Living the lie was costly(hair, clothes, make-up, stress, pain) and it wasn’t worth it…but I AM. new creature dying to self.
I am not judging, just sharing, but I pray that these words do that which they were intended to do. If I tag you please share, someone somewhere needs this.


Now… For my little 2 cents about the video & my sister’s words..

First of all let me start by saying I love how she says, ” I didn’t “go” natural, I returned to WHAT was natural.” That is so true in so many ways. Especially for women. Since so many women (especially african american women with their naturally curly hair) tend to get themselves “fixed” to be how someone else wants them to be or how they think someone else wants them to look. Women hide behind hair color, wigs, weaves & make up entirely too much. For anyone reading this all the way to here: I’m challenging you to not do something you do cosmetically to yourself daily for 5 days!!! Good luck!! Come back here to share the results of the challenge! Take care & be blessed!!

My conclusion to reading the book, #BEMORE by Sandi Krakowski

✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨ ✨Be More

The conclusion to the book #BEMORE #awesomesauce #empowering #IamMORE #IAmEmpowered #iCried Lol! 😅


I can’t express how much of this book hit so close to home so many times… I can read it all again & still laugh & cry at the same sections of the book.. It’s sometimes creepy how & when certain things happen in our lives.. There were sections in the book that made me feel like @sandikrakowski was a fly on my wall!! All the way down to us FEELING the same song & having it on repeat.. Before I even read that section mentioning it!

There were topics in the book that made me really think & have a different outlook on certain things..  I shed tears of frustration, sadness, confusion, joy & excitement throughout the book & empowerment at the end.. I already know I’ll shed somemore!! Every time I conquer a challenge or have a breakthrough, it will be a part of me being more!

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(Romans 1:29-32)

*From the book* ~ “Tame Your Tension.. Pay very careful attention to that tension. Many times that is a signal that you are right in the middle of God’s will with the best thing that could ever happen to you right in front of you..”

This is an eye opener & touchy section.. This one smacked me in the head & stuck to me!

Watch out for the enemy trying to distract you!!! One of the words used instead of enemy today is, “Haters”.. Beware of the haters!!! The enemy/hater will make you feel like quitting; you’ll begin to have feelings you’ve never had before! That tension will begin to invade your sleep and even your home & family!!! Take control of that tension & reverse that negative energy from your haters… Let your haters be your motivators!! The more haters I have.. The more empowered I feel.. Yep, we all have them.. We just don’t always know them.. But if you do know them.. Love them for empowering you to BE MORE!!!

*From the book* ~ “God has grace equal to the tension, so stop running, stop stressing, and lean into heaven. Heaven holds your answer: “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.””

(Philippians 4:13)

You can get a copy of the book on http://www.amazon.com or go to www.arealchange.com

Thanks for reading!

Peace, Love & Blessings

Helēne 💞🙏💞

You never know what someone is going thru… Be kind..

Almost 24yrs ago, On June 11, 1991 my life changed in so many ways. There was tears of joy (a child was born), a sigh of relief (the child was healthy) and something so small yet so powerful that it would physically change me forever(an epidural to ease the pain of childbirth)… From that day on I would have the occasional lower back ache as expected from getting an epidural.. Ok.. No big deal, right.. So, I do it again 15 months later! Still, no big deal, right..? Until…Sixteen years & five months later… 

Seven years and three months ago, In November 2007… I was walking down the carpeted stairs of our duplex carrying our 5 month old babygirl. Yep, I did it one more time… Third one is supposed to be a charm, right? She was an average weight baby girl. The last 2 steps that I ever so gently slipped on, not falling hard at all, as I got up saying that I was okay & baby was also okay. So I thought I was okay, anyway… The next morning I was not even able to lift up our babygirl due to the excruciating pain in my lower back… So this is when the REAL fun begins with my back pain journey as well as my neck.. That I have managed to hide fairly well. Between then and today, I’ve been thru various physical therapy including acupuncture, kineseotaping, massages & chiropractor visits, two MRIs.. Even a spine surgeon visit for my neck. I’ll never forget the spine surgeon told me that I could have surgery but there’s the chance that I could end up back in the same condition I was in needing surgery in the future. My other option was to suck it up and deal with the pain I was having or try injections. Well… I don’t do surgery unless I absolutely have to in a life or death situation. Although I believe I have a pretty high pain tolerance.. I am not a big fan of needles! I really don’t know of too many people who actually enjoy getting shots with needles. Unless they enjoy the pain or have a fetish for needles or sharp objects entering or against flesh. Yes, I do know they exist. 

I really enjoy working out and living an active fit lifestyle but of course this back issue has caused some setbacks with all that I would like to do with my fitness. I made up my mind to not let my back issues set me back anymore… I’ve become a Beachbody Coach, I’m a Fitfluential Ambassador, a Move More Fitness Ambassador and a Certified Bootcamp Instructor and soon to be a Certified Personal Trainer! It’s all about doing more & being smart about it! (#BEMORE) I continue to workout and I modify and take it easy on my back. I’ve also started doing Yoga. Prior to doing Yoga, I’ve been doing the PiYo workout program by Chalene Johnson, which has been very helpful with my back issues. PiYo also helps keep the body toned up without the high intensity like other workouts. I’ve also been doing some Holy Yoga and lots of Yoga Challenges on Instagram. I’m currently doing about 4 Yoga Challenges… Some days it’s hard to get them all in.. Then I try to play catch up and have lots of poses to do in one day and it’s awesome.. Until my back starts hurting.. I’ve started putting my faith before all things.. That seems to be what is keeping me going in the right direction.. Tomorrow, 2.10.15, I will be getting an injection to help ease the pain that I have been suffering in my back… I’m nervous yet looking forward to the outcome. God willing it will go as I expect and I will be a much happier person! Pray for me ya’ll!!!

Thanks for reading… More to come in the future.. #followme 

Peace & Blessings, Helene...On the beach...

New Blogger… New beginnings.. My Platform.

So, obviously this is my very first blog page attempt. I have plenty to say & share but I do understand that I have to be very careful of what I choose to post & share. I have to evaluate if it is worth posting or not. Will it be interesting or informative to most? Of course it will not be interesting or informative to everyone! Will it be beneficial to someone? That is always a possibility! Most things that I have ever read anywhere, if it caught my attention to read, whether beneficial to me or not.. I sure could think of someone else it could be beneficial to. So I would share it! LighthouseI do know that whatever I choose to post will be positive.. For that is the only energy I would like to share & post.. I want readers to leave my blog thinking about what they just finished reading or viewing, smiling, laughing, enlightened, crying a good cry if it affects them that way… And of course by all means, wanting to SHARE IT!!! 🙂

In High School and in College, I was often told by my English Professors that I should be a writer. Of course, that not being my most favorite subject, I never gave it much thought. *shrugs shoulders* & *kept getting good grades*  That’s where my thoughts were at that time. As I got older and read a lot of books and have even previewed some new authors books. Which I thought was a pretty cool idea just to even be considered to preview a book for someone. That of course made me think, hhmmm.. Maybe I’m supposed to be on the proofreading side of writing books?? Then that thought also passed after all that red ink! Ha! I would sometimes think I was catching too many mistakes, but that’s what a proofreader is supposed to do, right? I wasn’t feeling that anymore. Moving right along… I have 3 children now, oldest one likes to write & youngest one loves to read… The middle one.. Well, let’s just say, she’s got potential! So, that being said… Maybe writing whether it be in a journal, a blog or actually a book.. I believe it is “In Me”! Somewhere deep down inside… It’ll happen. I have faith… I see a book in my future!
What’s with the random lighthouse picture, you may be wondering..? Well, nice views help ease my mind and enable me to flow with whatever I am thinking, saying and typing… That’s all! 😉 (I’m a pisces & really enjoy views with water.)


As for blogging about specific things that are asked of me, if it is informative and worth sharing… I strongly believe that I could research and blog away! So, you.. Yes, you reading this right now… If you have any suggestions.. I am wide open to them!!!

Thanks for reading this much! I look forward to posting a whole lot more in the future! This post here is just my “platform” to get my flow going… 

If it doesn’t challenge you, It doesn’t change you.. #BEMORE

Love & Blessings